‘They Destroy Marriages More Than The Couples Themselves’ – Nigerian Lawyer Shares Her Observation From Her Years Of Handling Divorce Cases 

A Nigerian lawyer, Chisom Agbafor has revealed one of the factors responsible for the collapse of many Nigerian marriages.

Speaking from her years of experience in handling divorce cases, Chisom cited interference by mothers-in-law as the cause of divorces among Nigerian couples.

She wondered how a mother-in-law would move in with newly weds with the intention of living with them until they get pregnant and give birth.

“In my legal work with divorce cases, I’ve realized something: Mothers-in-law destroy more marriages than the couples themselves. How do you move in with newlyweds and never leave until their child is born?,”

she wrote in on her X handle on Sunday.

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She continued:

“I get tired of clients mentioning the mother-in-law making major decisions in their marriage, total rubbish.”

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Below are reactions from Nigerians…

@OgirimaFatti: True write up. In many cases, they decide what happens in your home and how your wife should treat you or be treated. They virtually make the decision in your home. Any objection to their rule make your home a living help.

@George Ugochukwu: ITS TRUE,VERY TRUE THIS HAPPEND TO ME,MY MOTHER IN LAW SCATTRED MY MARRIAGE,BY ADVISING HER DAUGHTER WRONGLY AND TAKING HER TO DIFFERENT CHURCHES.

@Anonymous: So true, I just came out of one recently. After taking her to several churches, they decided to call it quits. A once beautiful marriage just went down the drain just like that. Now we are sworn enemies and our divorce process has started.

@Johnny: Absolutely. It happened to me. And after the entire fuckup, na me dey want make I still dey married to their daughter after they realized the grass is not green on the other side. God forbid!

@ADemohlah: 100% FACTS. You know you’re lying to yourself if you dispute. Fathers understand “…and two shall become one” and give a healthy space after the wedding, but not mother-in-laws. As far as they’re concerned, the newly married child’s house is her new home extension, where she’s the ultimate governess. My advice to single, unmarried people. Occasionally, pay a casual visit to your prospective spouse and observe how your prospective mother-in-law addresses or regards her husband. Also, watch who the children defer to or regard. If it’s the mum and the father acts like another stranger or group decisions are taken without his input, run o. If she’s taken charge of her home while the hubby is alive, is it “small” you that she cannot control? She can either do it directly or manipulate her child to, especially if she’s a mummy’s boy or girl. The day you don’t share opinions on any important issue with her, no matter how ridiculous, is the beginning of the end of your marriage. Before long, you’ll shockingly find you’re outnumbered, 2 to 1, and you’ll be the stranger in your own home.

@Deolah: But someone in the marriage enables them, actively or passively.

@GabDesmond: Was dating a girl with 💯 intention of marrying her….. I never marry girl finish, mother-in-law to-be carry big bags cum stay with us, say she go help counsel us… Just three months after moving in with us, relationship scatter, marriage planning scatter,,, everybody go im separate ways.

@De: Some mother-in-laws especially the Mother of the husband find it difficult to accept that the son who they have doted upon all his life finally belongs to another woman.

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